Thanksgiving and Forgiving
Holidays can be stressful times. The number of commitments and unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others can turn any tune of Happy Holidays to You’re a Mean One ,Mr. Grinch. Add a spice of resentment or disappointment and you have a recipe for a family holiday mess. Why is it important to find peace? According to the Mayo clinic lower blood pressure, a better immune systems and improved mental health all rely on our ability to let anger and resentment go. Easier said than done. I know I’ve held onto some childhood issues for a long time. As my children have bridged the gap between adolescence and adulthood, I have heard my parents’ voices many times. So to my children, please remember that when I nag, I’m saying “”I love you. When I criticize what you wear, your table manners or vocabulary, I’m saying “I hope that I was a good enough mother to teach you everything that you will need to know.” Often these things leave my lips, like a sneeze. I know they are coming, but I feel powerless to stop them. I hope that you will forgive me, and I in turn will forgive those who have hurt me. The Huffington Post describes the process of forgiveness: express the emotion, understand why, rebuild safety and let it go. While it isn’t easy, it is important. Our health depends on it.